Its my friend's birthday today and it would also have been my grand father's birthday, had He been alive. My consolation is that He lived a good life and if I am to judge by his way of life, I believe He must be in Heaven. My friend's birthday and grandpa's death enlightened me and opened my eyes to a world of reality. "THE MORE DAYS WE SEE, THE CLOSER WE ARE TO OUR GRAVE"
This raises very vital questions of:
1) How much have you influenced your enviroment? Are you a blessing, a curse or a confused element in your generation.
2) If you die someday, are you certain of being in Heavenly places and be felt by the world or are you just another contribution to the earth, trees and grasses .......Asa's words "slightly altered"
There are some people who we can without ambiguity, testify that they impacted their enviroment. People like "Martin Luther King JNR, Nelson Mandela, The fallen heroes (soldiers of war), M.K.O Abiola, Fela Anikulapo Kuti etc.
The message of impacting our enviroment is easier preached than practiced. I wish to impact my enviroment. However, I don't seem to have enough resources, so does a lot of people. The fear of the unknown is also a factor. Interestingly, this is where the question of bravery comes in. If I am asked, I will say that bravery does not necessarily mean going into a den of lions per say. It can also mean standing for what is right when everyone has developed a cullture of what is not.
Civilisation is getting more pronounced by the day while new technological devices and inventions are coming into view. Sadly, the people seem to be getting more unwise and having a lack of ability to discern and prioritise on what matters and what does not. The mediums which would have been used to make a great positive change in our world are ironically the instruments used to destroy the world subtly.
Sexual perversion has become the order of the day and we seldom come accross insirational pieces of information. Rather, we spend our most valuable asset (OUR TIME) meddling with irrelevant things and indulging in unprofitable acts. I am also guilty of these acts. I find myself struggling with inspirational pieces and subconsciously spend my time on irrelevant and unproductive things. Thank God for wisdom and his grace upon our lives, I can say that maturity is setting in gradually and some silly things are being dropped along the way.
Life is a journey, No one knows when it will end ..... Life is also a market, We all come in to trade and leave. No one stays in the market forever.
It is important to know that, one's influence could either be positive or negative. Every little act counts. A drop makes an ocean. Every act of negligence on our part builds up to become an ocean of disarray which eventually drowns the innocent people.
Be a positive influence in your family, society and enviroment at large. So that your life can be regarded as a life well spent. It is also an investment in your future. The good works of a man, follows him and even flows to his decendants. How wonderful is the thought of you being the reason why your great grandchildren are stil given jobs and contracts in places of authority? I think I love the thought.
I hope I piqued your interest and inspired you in a minute way at the least. Till our next write up, have a splendid life.
xoxo
Jaymaimah
Friday 21 February 2014
Monday 17 February 2014
Romance in the same Organisation
Since time immemorial, there has always been conflicting ideologies relating to if romance in the same environment should be accepted or shunned. However its important that we note the merits and demerits of both schools of thought.
For the school of thought that supports the same zone romance, the driving or attracting force behind it are as follows:
* Seeing the person a lot and the easy access to stolen intimacies like cuddles, kisses and intimate spanks or fondling in coded corners or opportune spots.
* Being able to confide in such person at the quickest time possible.
*Hanging out after work without the worry of how to hook up.
* Easy monitoring of each others movement (I honestly am not cool with this but the possessive ones will be)
* Marriage, if Heaven, Pregnancy or luck shines on you.
Be that as it may, there are some major DEMERITS which are as follows:
* Constant distraction
* Excessive encroachment on each others privacy and territory which mostly leads to what can be regarded as " The law of see finish"
* Fights resulting from jealousy and wild thoughts running through ones mind when the other party is gisting and getting too relaxed or friendly with a colleague or neighbour who happens to be the opposite sex.
* Partiality and elements of bias in dealing with the romance partner as opposed to others.
* The presence of a tense atmosphere when fights and disagreements occur hence causing a friction in each others part and probably spoiling each others mood for the day.
From experience, I don't think its the best, if you do not intend to be serious or committed to it. Flings are better off from a distance. No strings attached and no holds barred. During one of my internship program, I remember having a mad crush on this senior colleague, thank God I never pursued it, a part of me just knew it was not good for me, particularly after I could fully sense that He was only going to get me laid and nothing more. Guess what? He is getting married to another colleague in that same organisation. Am so happy for him and I am happier that I did not gulk myself and give in to a mere physical attraction that would have affected my pride terribly. Regardless of me being a self controlled and emotionally stable lady, I have my short comings and my mumu button. Even the strongest man in the bible (Samson) had his mumu switch controlled by Delilah.
There is also the need for privacy. In as much as I give you a sizeable gist about my experience, I make sure to structure my words, so as to avoid any form of scandal. Be rest assured, that all my gists are true and factual. I cant imagine having to run things with someone I am likely to see for a very long time or has a link with my zone. News travel fast and they are likely to be restructured so as to make the gist sweet. Its easier to deal with your mess up, when its just you or a few people in the know, than when the whole hood knows your dirty little secrets.
I do not expect you to agree fully with me, thats why I look forward to your comments. Please remember, we can bare our minds without being insultive or disrespectful about it. Till our next talk, have a splendid life.
xoxo
Jemima
For the school of thought that supports the same zone romance, the driving or attracting force behind it are as follows:
* Seeing the person a lot and the easy access to stolen intimacies like cuddles, kisses and intimate spanks or fondling in coded corners or opportune spots.
* Being able to confide in such person at the quickest time possible.
*Hanging out after work without the worry of how to hook up.
* Easy monitoring of each others movement (I honestly am not cool with this but the possessive ones will be)
* Marriage, if Heaven, Pregnancy or luck shines on you.
Be that as it may, there are some major DEMERITS which are as follows:
* Constant distraction
* Excessive encroachment on each others privacy and territory which mostly leads to what can be regarded as " The law of see finish"
* Fights resulting from jealousy and wild thoughts running through ones mind when the other party is gisting and getting too relaxed or friendly with a colleague or neighbour who happens to be the opposite sex.
* Partiality and elements of bias in dealing with the romance partner as opposed to others.
* The presence of a tense atmosphere when fights and disagreements occur hence causing a friction in each others part and probably spoiling each others mood for the day.
From experience, I don't think its the best, if you do not intend to be serious or committed to it. Flings are better off from a distance. No strings attached and no holds barred. During one of my internship program, I remember having a mad crush on this senior colleague, thank God I never pursued it, a part of me just knew it was not good for me, particularly after I could fully sense that He was only going to get me laid and nothing more. Guess what? He is getting married to another colleague in that same organisation. Am so happy for him and I am happier that I did not gulk myself and give in to a mere physical attraction that would have affected my pride terribly. Regardless of me being a self controlled and emotionally stable lady, I have my short comings and my mumu button. Even the strongest man in the bible (Samson) had his mumu switch controlled by Delilah.
There is also the need for privacy. In as much as I give you a sizeable gist about my experience, I make sure to structure my words, so as to avoid any form of scandal. Be rest assured, that all my gists are true and factual. I cant imagine having to run things with someone I am likely to see for a very long time or has a link with my zone. News travel fast and they are likely to be restructured so as to make the gist sweet. Its easier to deal with your mess up, when its just you or a few people in the know, than when the whole hood knows your dirty little secrets.
I do not expect you to agree fully with me, thats why I look forward to your comments. Please remember, we can bare our minds without being insultive or disrespectful about it. Till our next talk, have a splendid life.
xoxo
Jemima
MY BATTLE BETWEEN MATURITY AND BEING A MAN SNATCHER
Sometimes, it amazes me of how much i have grown to be what I am today, I have been blessed to experience very important and significant situations that can either make you or break you.
This has ranged from moving up and down the ladder of comfort and poverty, peer pressure, emotional games and having a relationship with God. Presently, am in between a web where this guy who is engaged, is contemplating running things with me at the expense of his soon to be marriage.
Ofcourse, i won't allow him miss out on the goodies, marriage has to offer him. Not after all that I have been gisted by my friend that his woman is such a sweetheart. Ahmean, I am a lady that has a conscience. Before I get carried away, let me take you to where it all began.
On this fateful day, I slept over at my girlfriend's house with the intention of spending the weekend and this dude happens to be her flat mate. On getting into the compound and seeing him by the gate man's house, the first thing that registered on me was his look. He is not the show stopping type but at least he was easy on the eye. Amusingly, my girlfriend and the guy were not talking, so it seemed weird anytime we jammed and I greeted him, with him responding warmly while at the same time not sparing my friend a glance, talkless of a second one.
As a Christian who is very proud of having a splendid and growing relationship with God, I knew I had to do do something about the tense atmosphere in that house. They shared the same kitchen for Chrissake, where they not scared of one person putting indo-cid (rat poison) inside each other's food out of share hatred? I had my chance when my friend went out and it was only me in the house with the dude. For the record, I already sensed the physical attraction on his part, it permeated through him to me like the scent of a werewolf to a vampire(winks). It motivated me to seize the moment since He always jumped at every greeting with a hope of more conversation. Luckily, my friend was not coming home any time soon, so I sat him down in the parlor and talked for olympics that night. I suceeded in getting him to talk to me and open up well. He promised to make amends and that was a good start. I spoke to my friend also and She also promised to do the same. As a peace maker, I went to my cute apartment, feeling proud of myself. Unknown to me, I had struck a cord.
The next time I came around, the atmosphere was serene, they had been able to overcome whatever reservations they had for each other. The dude and I became really good chat pals. My girlfriend was amazed at how fast we clicked, She had lived with him for a while and she incessantly reminded me of how She had never seen him come out of his tightly fenced world. He is a first class introvert. She was happy for him, so also where the few people who knew him. They liked this friendly and playful part of him more. What they did not know is that, this dude had already started confusing mere physical attraction and play chemistry with something deep. I remember him asking me if I would stand by him if he made any rash decision. As a sharp babe, I knew what was in his head, I had been there before and done that. If my memory serves me well, it wasnt good for me. I got hurt since I got carried away somewhere in the game. This was not going to happen again, once beaten, 72 million times sharp.
I have noticed that he never likes to talk about his woman and I respected that, However, I made my findings on the basic thing and I came to the conclusion that it was not fair on the lady. I currently don't have any serious relationship and for some weird reason, I have not been able to keep any for as long as 3 months. I even spent this last Vals with this same girlfriend. She is engaged so don't think I was flexing with a fellow bobo less babe. I seem to be in a phase where am being hit by my singleness but luckily for me, there is a stronger force pushing me and occupying my mind (MONEY). I have got money on my mind and so the determination to become wealthy in a legit manner fuels my husstle more than the realisation that i dont have my own man. Its not like i do not have fans, every girl has a toaster, whether its for a good reason or not.
I gisted another friend about the whole eesh and She happens to be a hopeless romantic so she is asking me to relax and go with the flow. She said " How are you not sure God sent you to come and save this guy". As for me, I won't be the reason for another woman's unhappiness. I am single not desperate. I have parked my things and left the babe's house today ooo. I don't want to form James Bond and complicate issues. If He wants to leave his woman, it must not be because of me. Thank God he does not have my number or know where I live. Am sure whatever attraction I had had was out of sheer admiration and not with the intention of getting deep with him, However, I am human. Every lady wants a man to call her own and since I happen to be unattached at the moment, I might just start to mistake loneliness and a temporary companionship for something else, hence complicating matters for all involved.
I am open to your opinions and comments, Please bare your minds on this issue, it might just help me or someone in a similar positon but abeg, no insults, We can all communicate our minds maturely. I will be more frequent on my blog, to enable us relate well. I honestly need to even pimp my page up sef. Till our next gist, have a splendid life.
xoxo
Jemima
This has ranged from moving up and down the ladder of comfort and poverty, peer pressure, emotional games and having a relationship with God. Presently, am in between a web where this guy who is engaged, is contemplating running things with me at the expense of his soon to be marriage.
Ofcourse, i won't allow him miss out on the goodies, marriage has to offer him. Not after all that I have been gisted by my friend that his woman is such a sweetheart. Ahmean, I am a lady that has a conscience. Before I get carried away, let me take you to where it all began.
On this fateful day, I slept over at my girlfriend's house with the intention of spending the weekend and this dude happens to be her flat mate. On getting into the compound and seeing him by the gate man's house, the first thing that registered on me was his look. He is not the show stopping type but at least he was easy on the eye. Amusingly, my girlfriend and the guy were not talking, so it seemed weird anytime we jammed and I greeted him, with him responding warmly while at the same time not sparing my friend a glance, talkless of a second one.
As a Christian who is very proud of having a splendid and growing relationship with God, I knew I had to do do something about the tense atmosphere in that house. They shared the same kitchen for Chrissake, where they not scared of one person putting indo-cid (rat poison) inside each other's food out of share hatred? I had my chance when my friend went out and it was only me in the house with the dude. For the record, I already sensed the physical attraction on his part, it permeated through him to me like the scent of a werewolf to a vampire(winks). It motivated me to seize the moment since He always jumped at every greeting with a hope of more conversation. Luckily, my friend was not coming home any time soon, so I sat him down in the parlor and talked for olympics that night. I suceeded in getting him to talk to me and open up well. He promised to make amends and that was a good start. I spoke to my friend also and She also promised to do the same. As a peace maker, I went to my cute apartment, feeling proud of myself. Unknown to me, I had struck a cord.
The next time I came around, the atmosphere was serene, they had been able to overcome whatever reservations they had for each other. The dude and I became really good chat pals. My girlfriend was amazed at how fast we clicked, She had lived with him for a while and she incessantly reminded me of how She had never seen him come out of his tightly fenced world. He is a first class introvert. She was happy for him, so also where the few people who knew him. They liked this friendly and playful part of him more. What they did not know is that, this dude had already started confusing mere physical attraction and play chemistry with something deep. I remember him asking me if I would stand by him if he made any rash decision. As a sharp babe, I knew what was in his head, I had been there before and done that. If my memory serves me well, it wasnt good for me. I got hurt since I got carried away somewhere in the game. This was not going to happen again, once beaten, 72 million times sharp.
I have noticed that he never likes to talk about his woman and I respected that, However, I made my findings on the basic thing and I came to the conclusion that it was not fair on the lady. I currently don't have any serious relationship and for some weird reason, I have not been able to keep any for as long as 3 months. I even spent this last Vals with this same girlfriend. She is engaged so don't think I was flexing with a fellow bobo less babe. I seem to be in a phase where am being hit by my singleness but luckily for me, there is a stronger force pushing me and occupying my mind (MONEY). I have got money on my mind and so the determination to become wealthy in a legit manner fuels my husstle more than the realisation that i dont have my own man. Its not like i do not have fans, every girl has a toaster, whether its for a good reason or not.
I gisted another friend about the whole eesh and She happens to be a hopeless romantic so she is asking me to relax and go with the flow. She said " How are you not sure God sent you to come and save this guy". As for me, I won't be the reason for another woman's unhappiness. I am single not desperate. I have parked my things and left the babe's house today ooo. I don't want to form James Bond and complicate issues. If He wants to leave his woman, it must not be because of me. Thank God he does not have my number or know where I live. Am sure whatever attraction I had had was out of sheer admiration and not with the intention of getting deep with him, However, I am human. Every lady wants a man to call her own and since I happen to be unattached at the moment, I might just start to mistake loneliness and a temporary companionship for something else, hence complicating matters for all involved.
I am open to your opinions and comments, Please bare your minds on this issue, it might just help me or someone in a similar positon but abeg, no insults, We can all communicate our minds maturely. I will be more frequent on my blog, to enable us relate well. I honestly need to even pimp my page up sef. Till our next gist, have a splendid life.
xoxo
Jemima
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