Dear Beloved Wife,
Being Your Husband’s Girlfriend
The mistake most wives make is that they relax and let their guards down all in the name of them being the WIFE and the woman in the house. Take it or leave it, the reason why your husband genuinely proposed to you is because he appreciated what he saw when you were still his GIRLFRIEND. The nice, sexy, classy, caring, fun loving, beautiful you. Don’t get me all wrong, you are still beautiful but the only problem here is that you have gotten too comfortable with title of a wife. By virtue of marriage, you are his wife but every man will rather relating with you as the same girlfriend he married than the newly emerged wife you have turned yourself into through your actions. The following acts turn you from being his girlfriend which he appreciated and married, to his wife who now happens to be DULLING:
· Giving the children more priority
· Dressing to kill the mood of intimacy
· Inability to induce or create fun
· Forgetting he is the BOSS and you are his P.A
· Being a dustbin instead of a recycle machine
· Being physically unfit
GIVING THE CHILDREN MORE PRIORITY
The children came as a result of the love you made; this can never change the truth that your husband is your FIRSTBORN. It takes TWO to make a baby, be it through sex or insemination. Since we are discussing in line with your marriage, I definitely mean through sexual intercourse. The children are a JOINT PROJECT that must be handled by the PARENTS, not PARENT or PERSON. This simply means that you can not train kids alone hereby neglecting your husband, hereby making him find SOLACE elsewhere. The heart is big enough to accommodate everyone, so do not shut him out. Give your husband his part and always have it at the back of your mind that before the kids, it was just the two of you. When the kids grow and live their lives, it will remain you both and that takes you back to SQUARE ONE.
DRESSING TO KILL THE MOOD OF INTIMACY
Why on earth should you dress in BUBA and WRAPPER in the house when civilization has brought about cloths like halter neck tops, spaghetti tops, boob tubes, bum shorts, mini skirts and all kind of skimpy cloths? The only time you are permitted to wear a bubbas, wrapper or kaftans (big gowns) is when your mother in law or any old school person is around. If they happen to be current, a nice simple gown won’t hurt. Men are controlled by what they see. Look nice and decent when you are in public but when you are in the house; go sexy all the way with no form of hesitation. Baggy/ Shapeless clothes and wrapper tying is the number one romantic mood / atmosphere killer in marriage. You are his woman, there is no need to act all VIRGINAL with him. There is no crime or fault in being your husband’s whore.
FORGETTING HE IS THE BOSS AND YOU ARE HIS P. A
Every wife is to be submissive to her husband. This does not make you a dummy; it makes you a virtuous woman. Couples can never agree on everything, that is what makes you human. When such a situation arises, let him have the last say at the moment, when he is calmer, plead your case in a subtle and respectful manner. If that does not work, try arriving at a fair compromise that will suit both parties. Do not try forcing your points on him; he has a right to his points.
INABILITY TO INDUCE OR CREATE FUN
After a while, wives tend to be less fun, over serious, irrational, sulky and nags. This does not help. Has it ever occurred to you to take your husband out on a date? Even if you are a career woman and you happen to be very busy, you must create time. The following are few things you can do alone with your husband to create fun:
· Take him to a nice restaurant and foot the bill
· Go watch a movie or bring the cinema to the house.
· Go swimming, the gym or the beach together
· Learn to give massages, manicure and pedicure and do them regularly for him, you can as well persuade him to reciprocate.
· Make your bedroom a haven of romance and not just a room you sleep in. Decorate it beautifully; colored lights go a long way in creating a nice atmosphere.
· Learn to do things he enjoys doing, it won’t be a bad idea if you join him and persuade him to do what you love also. The fact that you learnt to do it will please him. Even if you are pathetic at it, he will not mind helping you perfect the skills.
· Be creative and do things that will blow his mind
BEING A DUSTBIN INSTEAD OF A RECYCLE MACHINE
It is high time you start helping in the house and not just be a professional dustbin that only collects but never gives back in return. Buy nice things no matter how small for your husband on a regular basis; do not wait till Valentine’s Day. Help in getting things for the house. If you are a full house wife, it is high time you get busy and start making your own money no matter how small. A married woman with no money to call her own by her sweat holds little or no value.
BEING PHYSICALLY UNFIT
Stay fit. No man wants a lazy, unfit and stiff woman. Fitness helps you live long and it also goes a long way in your marriage. A woman who is not fit is no fun and complicates the marriage unnecessarily.
